If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.
If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.
If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.
If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.
If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.
Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists.
I was dealing with some personal ish and decided to grab dinner with a friend and then meet some other folks to watch the debate/football. Was already stressed and emotional, but whatever, had some whiskey and some ice cream and was feeling OK by the time we were actually able to leave our spots…
read the whole post.
the way the world exists right now, the proper thing to do is say that most men of the world are JUST not like this.
that is simply bullshit.
this is the majority view/behavior/wtfever summed up.
and that shit needs to change. and by that i mean immediately.
sarah is so right that this man will see no social consequences from this outburst, no one will make him a pariah for his misogyny.
if it had been her, she would have been written off as a bitch by all those around.
this is horribly fucked up. and some say sexism no longer exists…..
If you aren’t a fan of Patrick Stewart (Captain Jon Luc Picard of STNG), this might make you ask yourself why not?
“Our house was small, and when you grow up with domestic violence in a confined space you learn to gauge, very precisely, the temperature of situations. I knew exactly when the shouting was done and a hand was about to be raised – I also knew exactly when to insert a small body between the fist and her face, a skill no child should ever have to learn. Curiously, I never felt fear for myself and he never struck me, an odd moral imposition that would not allow him to strike a child. The situation was barely tolerable: I witnessed terrible things, which I knew were wrong, but there was nowhere to go for help. Worse, there were those who condoned the abuse. I heard police or ambulance men, standing in our house, say, “She must have provoked him,” or, “Mrs Stewart, it takes two to make a fight.” They had no idea. The truth is my mother did nothing to deserve the violence she endured. She did not provoke my father, and even if she had, violence is an unacceptable way of dealing with conflict. Violence is a choice a man makes and he alone is responsible for it.” ~Patrick Stewart
By: Independence House, Inc. Hyannis, MA
Please share this.
And- I find him even sexier now ;-)
holy hell, what an amazing man
totally, completely, and wholly agree
people, please be more like this
Transvaginal ultrasounds to dissuade you from getting an abortion
Now, strip-searches to dissuade you from dissenting or risking arrest
Invasive policies that deploy sexual assault in order to keep you in line
Where does it end?
The craziest part of this brainwashing is how a very basic situation has been twisted into something incredibly ugly. An unarmed child is shot and killed for doing nothing but walking home by a man with no authority who had been told to stand down by the police. This is cut and dry. You can look at this and go, “Oh, that’s a tragedy.” But because the kid was black, because everything is ultra-politicized, because racism is so ingrained in the DNA of the United States of America, this is somehow a controversy. I repeat: an unarmed child was shot dead by a grown man. This is one situation that everyone should be able to understand. It’s a nightmare scenario for every family ever. And yet… the news is telling us that the child may have possibly been a thug, a drug dealer, a hoodlum, a monster, as if any of that has anything to do with why he got shot. There are people out there actively digging up (incorrect) dirt on Trayvon Martin as if that matters at all. He’s a… I don’t even know, a point in a long-running argument, an abstraction about the evils of black youth.
This is Richard Hayne, President and CEO of Urban Outfitters. He’s also a supporter of Rick Santorum and donated over $13,000 to him. He’s against gay marriage and abortion.
His company pulled a pro-gay shirt back in 08, they also blatantly ripped off an Etsy designers work, featured a t-shirt for women that said “eat less” and most recently had a card with a “tranny” slur on in.
Why do you shop at this store? I imagine because you weren’t aware of these facts. Now you are, so stop shopping there.
I want to tread carefully here: I do not accuse Kristof of racism nor do I believe he is in any way racist. I have no doubt that he has a good heart. Listening to him on the radio, I began to think we could iron the whole thing out over a couple of beers. But that, precisely, is what worries me. That is what made me compare American sentimentality to a “wounded hippo.” His good heart does not always allow him to think constellationally. He does not connect the dots or see the patterns of power behind the isolated “disasters.” All he sees are hungry mouths, and he, in his own advocacy-by-journalism way, is putting food in those mouths as fast as he can. All he sees is need, and he sees no need to reason out the need for the need.
But I disagree with the approach taken by Invisible Children in particular, and by the White Savior Industrial Complex in general, because there is much more to doing good work than “making a difference.” There is the principle of first do no harm. There is the idea that those who are being helped ought to be consulted over the matters that concern them.
The White Savior Industrial Complex - Teju Cole - International - The Atlantic
this. charity allows you to feel better and to ignore the root problems. to give handouts instead of talking to people.
it is particularly dangerous for someone like Kristof, who is at least theoretically a journalist. your job is to talk to people, to get the whole story, to get as deep into it as you can. particularly when you have the luxury of a fat New York Times paycheck and travel budget, you damn well owe it to the people you cover not just to skim the surface of their stories. your job is not to fix their problems, your job is to help them tell their stories.
I used to wonder how one could do this kind of journalism and NOT want to save people, to help the individual right in front of you right now, even if it doesn’t solve the problem. because it is so tempting and so hard. covering labor issues makes it a little bit easier for me—the people in front of me don’t need what little money or “help” I can give, they need more people to hear their story. they need solidarity in a very practical way. there is no “saving” I can do.
the people who want to “save” people always seem to want to do it overseas, too. they don’t want to save people in their own country, their own city. they only wanted to save people in New Orleans when the city was flooded—then we saw Anderson Cooper and Geraldo and the rest of them rolling up their sleeves and carrying babies.
your job is not to save people. your job is to help them tell their stories. when you become the story, you are no longer doing your job.